Trouble dating after divorce
If you’re divorced, or have ended a long-term relationship, well-meaning relatives and friends may encourage you to start dating again soon.But how will you know when you're ready for a new relationship?“This wildly varies from person to person,” says Judith Sills, Ph D, a Philadelphia-based psychologist and author of Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You've Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted.“Everyone ends a relationship by grieving the emotional investment.Once you set up a profile (ask friends for help), what you are likely to witness is many people being interested in you, not being turned off by the fact that you are divorced, and that it feels really good to be communicating in the dating world. Many men long for some of the comforts that were afforded in their marriage. home cooked meals, laundry etc.) and that causes them to rush to find their next partner.
One of the common themes that I encounter is that men want the companionship of someone else, but are scared of the process of dating.Even if it was a horrible process and divorce wasn’t the desired outcome, the positive look can be something like “I put my all into the marriage, and even though this relationship didn’t work out, I know that I can be a good partner to someone”, or “we had many good years together, but as time went on we grew apart”.When you do start to date, you’ll feel more comfortable about your situation and be able to share with your date a story that is palpable. Too many men rely on their married friends for advice.Jason Price is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Co-Director of Affiliates in Counseling, who has expertise working with couples during times of crisis.Whether it is the decision to stay together or divorce, dealing with extramarital affairs or other areas of conflict, he has had success helping couples identify the underlying problems in their relationship and develop a healthy life together.