Stories of black women dating white men
That might be why women are less likely than men to stick to a physical “type.” What my friend said made a lot of sense, but even if I was inclined to concur, I knew that it didn’t make women any more likely to be “color blind” than men.
(“Color blind,” by the way, is a pretty meaningless mental trait that actually applies to no-one.)I knew the woman I was talking to probably never would have been having this conversation with a white person.
Maybe you don’t have a particular “Chad” in mind but you watched the royal wedding or back episodes of “Scandal” or even re-watched Sanaa Lathan in “Something New” and you’re curious.
Maybe you have a specific white dude already in mind and you want some insider tips on how to navigate the ebony/ivory road.
Clearly I was first and foremost a black man to her… She probably wouldn’t have been having the conversation with a straight black guy either.
As pick-up talk goes, it wasn’t even remotely promising. Maybe she wanted me to know that she had done well.
We’d rather pretend that you like us for us, not for that specific physical attribute that we share with every other black person. She started to tell me about the guy she lost her virginity to 20 years earlier. Now here is where our interaction started to venture off the rails. Once she found the photo she was looking for, she was on a roll.
She pulled out her phone and began clicking through photos. She showed me a succession of recent pictures of her then-40ish first-timer posing outside shirtless because, well, why not?
White men generally flirt in the same way that they conduct business meetings. That’s why I say you may already be dating one because you may have misconstrued the seemingly platonic hangouts you’ve been having with Chad as non romantic, but to him, it’s a date. You may be tempted to be direct and flat out ask him, “Hey Chad, is this a date? Sensitive white dudes scare easily so tread lightly. I wouldn’t get thrown off by whether he makes a move on the first few of these “dates.” Like I said, they can be subtle and shy and slooooow, so give it some time.Uninitiated straight white women who have yet to “go black” are probably just as curious as some of the gay white men who have pursued me.However, once their curiosity is satisfied, their long-term behavior is probably less likely to be racially motivated.I know a thing or two about partnering up with the white devil (hot take: they love it when you call them white devil.I kid, I kid, they have no idea what it means, you’ll have to explain it to him. My man and I went on several “dates” before I even knew we were dating.