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I have been writing a series of blogs on dating practices. Some people respond by telling me about a success they have had; but the greater number of comments argue against my suggestions, and against the prospect of dating altogether.
What has struck me reading these remarks is how angry and bitter they are.
They want to make a family where they belong and can feel safe.
They want a partnership where both people are pulling together to accomplish goals they both share. Most of them do not want to dominate someone else, ridicule someone else or use them to their own purposes at the price of injuring them. Most of them are not playing out a drama from their past in which either the woman or the man comes out on top.
They were superficial, loud, insecure, interested only in football and sex, in that order, and threatened by any strong woman who came along. I had previously challenged Thelma’s assertions about men, “ men want to dominate women? She explained now in detail, with illustrations from her past, their various defects, which, as far as she was concerned, characterized all the other men in the world too. When she came in Thursday evening, she was in a cheerier mood.
It was like listening for forty-five minutes to someone playing a broken piano. She had become engaged, she told me, to somebody she had met In the space of that little time, she had contracted to marry someone she had just met! I think they are often angry because they suspect someone listening to them may think that the problem is not with the entire opposite sex, but with them. The other group of people who comment on my blog state flat out that the problem is with them. I can’t see why anyone would want to marry me.” “I feel disgusted with myself.” “I am undesirable.” “I feel inferior to every single person I meet.” These are only some of their comments. I listen to them and imagine what a first date would think listening to them express (despite their efforts to contain themselves) thoughts of this sort.
The most common mistake is to hesitate to reach out systematically to others who are themselves interested in meeting someone.Of course, what is most appealing in anyone exists somewhere in everyone.This is friendliness, kindness, concern for others, and a willingness to share a life and to love.(c) Fredric Neuman. Neuman's blog at fredricneumanmd.com/blog/ pr ask questions at fredricneumanmd.com/blog/ask-dr-neuman-advice-column/The focus of this post is that there are many different types of people out there and one has to seek out the right person for a successful relationship. But I am not totally in disagreement with the woman that says all men want to dominate a woman, watch football and have sex. And, although I don't date women, I might agree a little bit that all women might want a sugar daddy.“What about all that superficiality,” I said, trying to contain myself. ”“I know,” Thelma said, a little sheepishly, “but this guy is different.”Many men and women who have dated unsuccessfully become cynical, yet continue to date with the shrunken hope that there may be someone, somewhere out there who is an exception, who is worth knowing and loving. Most people do not want to date a loser, let alone someone who considers himself/herself a loser.Sometimes these opinions come out slowly during the course of a relationship.