Dating someone two years younger
And sometimes, they do; sometimes someone who is older really is more emotionally intelligent. Hell, we've even developed a terminology to describe people who look like adults on the outside, but are basically middle schoolers on the inside — that'd be that scourge of the dating world, the "man-child" or "woman-child."In my own mid-twenties, I dated a 30-year-old, expecting to find someone ready to get serious sheerly based on his age and professional accomplishments; instead, I found an immature trainwreck who made rude comments about my weight and cheated on me basically every time I was out of earshot.
Lots of women who've dated around have similar stories that prove that there's no concrete relationship between being older and actually acting like an adult.
Plus, all the cool kids are dating younger these days.
Kourtney Kardashian allegedly hooked up with Justin Bieber not long ago, while Carole Radziwill, the 50-something star of "When I was 41, I dated someone who was 33. He still enjoyed going to concerts, bars, and doing fun activities that weren't just dinner and a movie. Honestly, he made me feel younger, and when we first started dating he thought I was his age.
2 years stops making a difference when you're both in early adulthood (20~) for most people.
I knew a girl in high school who dated a guy almost 2 years younger than her.
I also had a lot of friends who couldn't believe how dumb I was — didn't I remember how difficult it was to get a guy to commit at age 24? Of course, I didn't "go through that again," and five years into our relationship, no one really gives a sh*t about how old either of us are.
But the experience has made me think about how women are discouraged from dating younger men — especially women in their twenties.
We might think that certain concrete markers of adulthood — a prestigious job; a working knowledge of personal finance; properly assembled Ikea furniture —signify a related degree of emotional maturity.When he found out I was almost 10 years older them him, he was shocked, but said I seemed younger than my age.Ultimately, the age factor didn't matter much to him.When I suggested just spending a night at home eating dinner, he'd beg to go out and try a new restaurant or get a table at a club.Deep down I was more of a homebody, so it didn't work out." "Everyone assumes that when you date someone younger they're more wild and immature, but it was the opposite when I dated a guy who was nine years younger than me.