Dating site introduction template
Show some respect I'm sorry, but I'm going to get this out of the way first because it's gross (to me) and I really think that some guys out there don't get it but... of any kind unless they somehow make it obvious that they're interested in that sort of thing. I'm not one to send a msg and be all forward and say "i wanna do this or that to your buttcheeks," etc. Hope you know where that came from and are having a good night. Any message you write will have to stand out from the others and give the recipient an indication that you're going to be fun to converse with. A good question needs to generate an answer longer than the question, that introduces new info that can branch a conversation out.
If they have the "hookup" or "one night stand" or other setting turned on or they mention it in their profile. Realize that not every woman wants to be greeted with "hello sexy" or "hello pretty" (yes, I've gotten both and more) or even have anyone mention their looks at all. Do you want someone telling you that you're a big hunk of handsome as the only greeting you get? Show them that you did by writing a nice 2-3 paragraph introduction that tells them about you (so they don't have to look at your profile) why you're contacting them (shows them that you've read theirs) and asks questions that draw them in (people like answering questions). While I have some of the later ones, the original one somehow got deleted. He introduced himself generally and told me things about himself that matched up with things I mentioned on my profile, he explained why he was contacting me despite my many warnings not to do so, and he asked me questions I wanted to answer... Let's do a little case study: As you say in your question, women get lots of messages. Reading their profile is good, establishing some common interest is useful also, but maybe don't immediately jump to asking a question because it's hard to ask a good open question worthy of a debate grade answer that is worded in a way that paints a picture of you as being worthy of receiving that answer. The question also has to be worded in such a way that it's different, and hence indicates you're different, or the way you think is different, and piques their interest. " - meh, it's too closed, too easy to answer, too limited in its scope for introducing new info, too likely to generate disagreement with the answer and a little too predictable - might even get asked 10, 20 times a day if green day is about the only well known or stand out thing about her profile..
What is a good way to start a conversation on a dating website? I play a bit of bass guitar, standard guitar, and I am also a drummer. Um, I'm not sure of what else you'd like to know, but I'm sort of an open book, so feel free to ask! John This doesn't show that he read my profile but it's funny, open, long but not too long.
First off, when I joined said dating site, it was because I wanted to take the quizzes. I like that he makes fun of the people I talk about in the first point without being overly graphic because it shows that he understands what a lot of ladies go through. So, in the end, endeavor to be like John but add a bit more that's referential to the woman you're contacting. Think about what you talk about when you meet someone at a party. An entire book could be written on this subject, so I don't know how on target it is for his site (possibly "too broad") and there are thousands of variables/no "one size fits all" approach but: Consider that women will receive somewhere between ten to a hundred times more messages on dating sites for every one message that a man gets as a conversation start.
The sites that I'm using all rely on internal messaging systems and user-created profiles to stimulate conversation, so the only thing I know about other people is their pre-written descriptions.
You can tweak your approach a little, but keep it true to you to avoid problems later on.
There's a difference between saying (as part of a longer message) something like "I see we're a really strong match and I also find you very attractive." Is more welcome than "Hey, hottie, wanna get together? You're trying to find someone to date, to get to know better... Find someone who's a good match for you and really read their profile. I haven't been active on the site until today because I'm happily married but even now I have messages waiting for me, all from May... This is really hard to do with the small number of words your question needs to be in order to get to the point. I always found better responses if I could put together a short message that told a bit of a funny story, or jokingly started some point of debate, 5 to 8 lines, maybe a question at the end (but if the message was contentious enough that she felt she had to respond to put me right, or sound off in agreement it doesn't always need a question).
Something that is indicative of your sense of humour is vital. Too short or scant on personally relatable information, and you're in the bin as a copy paste chancer.
As a man seeking a woman, statistically I'm the one that has to make the first move and introduce myself.
Problem is, I have no idea what a good introduction is. " with common hobbies and I've asked for details on hobbies or jobs, but so far these messages have been opened but have not received replies.